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Helloooooooo fellow magical folk! It’s a beautiful day in the neighborhood! The sun is shining, and I’m getting all ready for a Summer Solstice celebration at the beach next week.

For those of you new to Wicca, Witchcraft or Paganism in general, you don’t have to be Wiccan to observe this powerful holiday! It makes for a great celebration of nature in all its glory, it’s a time when the veil between our world and the fairy world is think, and it’s one of the most powerful times of year for magic. sHere are some of my Hubpage articles you might find interesting:

Wiccan Holidays: What is the Summer Solstice?

Summer Solstice Correspondences, Associations and Traditions

Celebrating the Summer Solstice: A Fairy Ritual for Midsummer

Magic for Midsummer: Simple Spells, Potions, And Other Magical Inspirations


Having raised three little Witchlings of my own, I would say yes– a step in the right direction is to teach children that their thoughts, words and deeds have a huge impact on  this world, and on what happens to them.

There are some great books, such as  Circle Round: Raising Children in Goddess Traditions, The Pagan Family: Handing the Old Ways Down, and Family Wicca: Practical Paganism for Parents and Children were some of my favorites when raising my kids.

Another resource I love is the website The Pooka Pages. It is designed for Pagan children giving simple stories, explanations, spells, coloring pages, etc. Even though my youngest is 16 now, I still like to browse it and occasionally grab a fun family idea for our Sabbat celebrations, or a coloring page for myself to color and pin up above the family altar.

Blessings to you and your little one!

Hi there! I do have a few favorite books, mostly I tend to post them in the articles I write. If you’re gardening, I highly recommend getting an herb gardening guide for your specific region… for me, gardening in the south, I absolutely adore the book Southern Herb Growing. It’s not a Witchcraft/Pagan book, but such a great guide for the challenges of growing herbs in southern climates.

I’m a fan of Scott Cunningham’s guides, so I recommend:
Cunningham’s Encyclopedia of Magical Herbs (Llewellyn’s Sourcebook Series) (Cunningham’s Encyclopedia Series)
The Complete Book of Incense, Oils and Brews (Llewellyn’s Practical Magick)

I also like:
The Wicca Garden: A Modern Witch’s Book of Magickal and Enchanted Herbs and Plants (Citadel Library of the Mystic Arts Book)
Kid’s Herb Book, A: For Children of All Ages… which I find to be great for kids AND adults.

For crystals I usually intuit or do quick research online, but a good book for reference is:Cunningham’s Encyclopedia of Crystal, Gem & Metal Magic

There may be other great books out there that I haven’t read, but these are among my favorites. Hope that helps!

Heyyyy buddy! Thanks so much!

When it comes to dressing a candle with oils, I just smear some on my hands and get going. A couple of drops maybe? I don’t really measure. Very little– just enough to lightly coat. I start with a couple of drops, and if it’s a big candle and feels like it’s spreading too thin, a couple more.

As for how much herbs/glitter, I usually sprinkle these on a tray and roll the candle in it. So maybe a teaspoon or two, depending on side of the candle? As much as will stick, lol.

Hope that helps!

Hi there; I admire your courage to get away and break toxic relationships. I know a bit about that myself, and it’s a hard thing to do, but sometimes necessary to our well being. Sounds like you made the right choice for yourself, and as hard as it might have been it sure sounds like it as the best thing. I’m sosorry that there have been magical people cheating you! Charlatans piss me off!

The jar spell using urine, nails, pins, etc. aren’t meant to facilitate healing; they’re meant to break spells/negative holds and to protect, so if you still feel threatened, it could be a good idea. You can also do a jar spell for healing, though I wouldn’t recommend using the urine/pins, I’d fill one with olive oil, healing herbs, some of my own blood, etc, and do candle magic over it to facilitate healing. Since turpentine has strong associations to healing for you, you might mix it in with the oil, or replace the oil with turpentine (for me, it just means ‘paint thinner’, lol, so I would probably not use it for any healing spells; perhaps for cleansing/clearing spells).

You can also create some kind of charm (Witch’s ladder, charm bag, etc.) to facilitate healing. I also recommend taking some cleansing baths or perhaps an uncrossing ritual if you feel up to it. Best of luck to you, dear!


Hello there… first off, I wanna thank you for all the kind words you had about my articles (for those wondering, I snipped out that part, lol). But you really made my day.

Now, onto the question at hand… I would first of all say forget titles like “Wiccan” or “Christian”…. you have a strong relationship with a God, and you have figured out what works for you on your spiritual path, and you have learned to listen to your instincts. I’d say stick to that path. It appears to be working for you.

The only question seems to be is… what do you call it? Though you worship the Abrahamic God YHWH, can it honestly be called ‘Christianity’ if you dismiss Jesus as savior (kind of the core theological point in Christianity). Though you believe there is one God, and that he is the Abrahamic God that comes along with very Abrahamic-specific beliefs (demons and angels, for example), can it called ‘Wicca’, a religion that espouses gender duality, and with a world view that contradicts the ‘good vs. evil’ world view?

Only you can really figure that out for yourself… I think of it as kind of a bullseye with concentric circles around it. The more one shares a core belief/value with a religion, the closer one gets to the bullseye; the more one deviates, the further one gets away from the bullseye. One doesn’t have to be ‘dead center’ to be on target, but at some point, one has to consider they’ve  missed the mark; or perhaps strayed off the target and are in entirely new territory.

If you were to ask me, I’d say your beliefs probably don’t fit in either the category of “Christianity” or “Wicca”… even though you are certainly influenced by both, you stray enough from core tenets to really fall in line with either.

That is not a bad thing, however. Your beliefs are no less valid than a Methodist or a Gardnarian’s are. It all just comes down to ‘how do we label it’; it’s about where it would be categorized. I think your path lies outside the box, so to speak. I think both labels would probably mislead people on what your actual beliefs are…. and, as Wicca is a minority religion that many people fail to understand, you telling someone you’re Wiccan is only going to confuse them further.

But what you call it is really up to you, whether I or anyone else thinks it’s an accurate label or not. To me it sounds more in line with how I understand New Age or Christo-Paganism, or Abrahamic (perhaps Gnostic?) Paganism, and you draw in many elements that are compatible with Wicca. But only you can do an honest examination of your beliefs and determine the best thing to call it.

Either way, whatever you call it, it sounds like you’ve done something many people struggle with for years, or a lifetime: you’ve found your true path. It doesn’t really matter what anyone calls it, including you, lol. Just keep on that spiritual journey.


And with that, my friends, I am out. Have a great week!


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Let’s dig right in, shall we?

Hey there, I think you did answer your own question. But let’s look at this for just a minute.

First, I wanna say, I hate to think of it as ‘can a Wiccan do this’ or ‘can a Wiccan do that’ Because that makes it sound like someone has to give us permission or something. It’s just a little too authoritarian for me, you know?

I like to look at it more like this– you do what you do. Follow the God(s) you believe in, etc., as you believe them to be. That’s how it should be first and foremost.

So the question then becomes, is what you’re doing something that can be considered Wicca, or not? Like, does it fit the Wiccan religion? Does it make sense within a Wiccan religious context, because obviously some things do and some things don’t.

Wicca, being a fertility religion in which things like gender and polarity play an important role, simply begs for duality. For some, that is seeing a Supreme Being as having both male and female qualities. For others, that is seeing at least one Goddess and at least one God. And others are polytheistic. But the key to the view of the divine in Wicca is in its duality (and complementary duality at that, such as the Yin/Yang, rather than conflicting duality, as in God/devil).

Even a hard polytheistic Wiccan, however, can believe in many Gods but focus a relationship on one, or two, or on a specific divine pair, etc. Just being Wiccan doesn’t necessarily mean you have to actively worship the multitudes of deities.

So really it depends on what you mean on worshiping ‘one’… and I guess it depends on how you define that ‘one’. There is definitely room here for henotheism or kathenotheism; although one might argue monotheism or even monolatry extends beyond any borders that can be defined as Wiccan territory.

Ah, risks of Witchcraft. That is a huge concern for many. I guess there’s a lot of mixed information out there. A lot of the rumors and religious folk and horror movies would have you believe it’s potentially deadly; a lot of other Pagan-friendly websites would have you believe it’s completely innocent or harmless.

I would say somewhere in-between. I don’t think it’s some big satanic/demonic trap for your soul– and in my experience, it’s never been like what Christians always warned me it would be like. But at the same time, people white-wash it, as if it’s never a threat, and I don’t think that’s completely true either.

It’s working with natural energies, and nature can be dangerous. Like working with fire or electricity or working in water. Natural forces are powerful, even when you’re just trying to harness them a little bit. So we always have to use caution and be careful.

Almost anything in life is risky– going out and crossing the street, taking a shower, cooking a meal. Witchcraft is no different. But the idea that the hounds of hell will be unleashed upon you to feast on your soul, yadda yadda yadda… no, not so much, lol.

Okay… wow. Crazy people out there. I wouldn’t really listen to anything he says about his religions, his life missions or his past lives. Sounds like an attention-seeking nutter to me. But nutters can be dangerous. And the fact that he’s figured out how to manipulate your wife is obviously dangerous territory here.

Tread carefully with her… don’t give her a reason to think she needs to cut you off and turn to him; if she feels that connected to him, don’t make her feel like she has to choose between you & Mr. Supposedly Wonderful over there. Because in her state of mind you might not like the choice she makes, particularly if he’s adept at magic and working spells on her.

Keep the lines of communication open; ask questions and keep her talking about it. But not questions that really defy him so much as let her talk, and you listen, and when you see inconsistencies or absurdities, point it out to her. Encourage her to share with trusted friends and family, too, as well as other religious leaders that she respects (or find leaders in religions she respects).

You might also invest in doing some research on this guy… see what he’s got in his past. Also it might be a good idea, if you can talk her into it, to go to counseling together.

That’s the mundane things you can do; now, for the magical things I’d work on…. if you or someone you know is adept at magic, do spells to reveal himself to her– his manipulativeness, his lies, his true intentions. You also might want to convince her to do an uncrossing (don’t even bring him into it, just talk her into you think she needs one, suggest you both do one). This will break any magical grip he’s managed to get on her.

At that point I’d work on spells to banish him– I’d wait to loosen his grip on her first, though. If you just try to banish him at first, she might go with him.

Realistically, I wouldn’t use spells to bring someone back… it doesn’t matter how much love you feel for her. When people want to go, you have to let them go.

It’s sad, but it’s just a fact. It doesn’t really matter what you think is best for her (in fact, it’s going to be hard for you to be objective, given your feelings). She has to be able to decide what she thinks is best for her, and what she wants.

Love spells just don’t make for good, healthy relationships. There’s too much of an imbalance of power. It’s more like slave/master relationship (and I know some people are into that, but I don’t mean in a good way, because it’s an unwilling slave). When you keep someone in emotional bondage like that, they’re not going to be the person you wanted.

In your situation, I don’t advise casting love spells on her. I would say you’re time and effort would be better put toward casting spells on yourself to help you let go. I’d recommend meditation and pathworking to understand what void it is you have that you’re looking to fill. And after working on yourself, cast spells to meet compatible potential mates to choose from.

That may not be the answer you’re looking for in your position right now, but I think it’s much better answer than casting spells to manipulate someone and force them to be with you when they make it clear they feel the desire and/or need to take a different path for themselves.

Love that movie, ‘The Last Keepers.’ I highly recommend it. One of the few movies that features a Pagan family, and paints modern Pagans in a positive light.

The only explanation I have for the supernatural scenes, though, is that it’s a fiction movie. And they made it up, as fiction creators are known to do. While they did draw from realistic Pagan religions in terms of Goddess worship and ritual, the whole thing about prophecies, supernatural powers and such are from fiction. We can’t elevate giant blocks of wood and make them fly through the air, we can’t start fire by pointing a finger, etc.

While I personally believe that yes, there are people with psychic abilities and psychic healing abilities, it rarely is in real life as it is portrayed in films.

Thanks everyone for the questions! I will get to another batch in a couple of days. Until then, bright blessings!

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I realized something– I’m even way more backed up on my email than I thought! I’m still wading through, but I might put through a couple of extra Mailbag posts this week.

I also want to start by reminding people I’ve answered the previous questions in some form or another, and the answers haven’t changed. There are some questions that I literally get dozens and dozens of the same one over and over.

If you really, really want a detailed explanation, please view previous Mailbag installments. But if you don’t have the patience to wade through, I will give you the nutshell version for each of these:

Can you cast a spell for me? No, sorry. not enough time in the day. The way I see it: if you give a man a fish, he eats for a night. If you teach a man to fish, he eats for the rest of his life… I won’t fish for you, but those who wanna learn to fish, please check out my articles, books & videos.

But can’t you bring my lover back/stop my lover from leaving/stop my lover from cheating? Definitely no… personally I don’t recommend manipulative magic in relationships. You’d be better off working spells to let go than to keep someone who doesn’t want to be with you or treat you the way you should be treated. It doesn’t work out well.

Can you teach me about Wicca or Witchcraft?  Please check out my articles, books & videos. That’s what they’re for.

But how do I learn Wicca/Witchcraft? Please check out my articles, books & videos. That’s what they’re for.

How do I cast a spell? Please check out my articles, books & videos. That’s what they’re for.

Can you personally mentor me? I already have a round of students I’m teaching in my year-long Wiccan Way Grove class, which will be running into early 2018; so I can’t take on anymore long-term students on a personal basis.

Beyond that, I do plan to teach some interactive online workshops this Summer, keep an eye out. 

How do I know if I’m a Witch? You study/practice Witchcraft

How do I know if I’m a Wiccan? You study/practice the Wiccan religion.

Am I a natural Witch/Wiccan? As much as anyone can be a natural carpenter, or a natural Christian. You can be whatever you like, but you still have to choose to put in the time.

You have a spell to help break an addiction, but will it work on someone else? Unfortunately, without the person’s cooperation, no.

Do you have a spell to help me cure someone I love of an addiction? Such a hard situation, but generally if their will is working against your will, it’s probably not going to go very well. An addicts will toward the object of their addiction is very strong. There are things you can do, but there are a lot of ‘if this/if that’ issues involved that make the issue complex. Because of the popularity of this issue, I’m working on an article on it. I will announce when it’s finished.

Okay… now that we have some of the repeats out of the way, let’s take a look at a couple of new ones from the ol’ mailbag.

Hi there! Great question, and the answer is– you don’t have to be Wiccan to be a Witch.

Wicca is a great religion and Witchcraft fits neatly with it, but Witchcraft in one form or another has been practiced throughout the ages by people of every religion (and no religion).

The Wiccan community is only a part of the Witch community. I mean, obviously if Wicca is not for you I wouldn’t run around joining Wicca exclusive covens or anything; but the Witchcraft community in general doesn’t tend to care if people are Wiccan or not.

Opening portals is actually a lot of work. I wouldn’t recommend even attempting it until you feel ready to handle it (good rule of thumb– don’t open something if you don’t know how to close it, don’t summon something if you don’t know how to banish it, etc.). These kinds of things, though, are generally not someone can just do by accident. They take real focused intent.

Overall though, Witchcraft is like anything else in life. It has its risks. Like crossing the street, or starting a campfire. You could accidentally goof. But like crossing the street or starting fires, I don’t think the risks are so overwhelming that people should never do it. As long as you proceed with forethought, planning and a little common sense, there shouldn’t be a problem.

Hello! For the first question, see some of my commonly asked questions above (same goes for Wizardry as for Witchcraft).

As for whether you NEED a deity, not in my opinion. For many, deities are an integral part of their practice in the Craft, but not all Witches feel the need to personally get involved with deities.


Okay, I think we’re good for today… I’m going to try and throw up one or two more this week. I’m currently mostly working through March-April but I’ll get it together soon! Thanks for your patience!

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