Mailbag: Ask Sage (17)

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There’s always a reason. Off the top of my head, I would guess some possibilities are:

– The liquid/gas inside expanded and popped the lid.

– You didn’t tighten it well enough.

– You goofed in the spell (contradictory, muddled intent, etc.)

– Your friend is going about her intentions the wrong way.

– It’s not the best time for your friend to have what she wants.

– The person she’s targeting just doesn’t want to be with her, and that person’s will/protection is stronger than your spell.

It’s really hard to guess what happened, you might want to try some divination to figure it out.

Hi there; first let me say I’m sorry for your losses, and the impact they’ve had on your life. And second, let me say, you’re never too old to start following the path you’re drawn to.

Now, in my beliefs, religion is a choice. I don’t believe in ‘meant to be’ because I believe in the opposite: free will. I do believe, though, that we know deep down– and our Gods know, and our spirit guides know, and our higher self knows, etc.– what path would be most beneficial for us or most fulfilling, make us at our most productive and happiest. Not because we were designed to be on it, but because it suits who we truly are inside.

This is why we are naturally drawn to certain things. Some one very drawn to Asian decor and languages and culture, etc., might find Buddhism is their best path; some drawn to extremely conservative values, traditions and causes, etc. might find Christianity is his path; etc. So all this means is that you have clearly been attracted to a certain world view for a while– Paganism– and nothing is holding you back from pursuing that path except for you.

I think it’s natural for us to be nervous about our lives taking a turn… and we hope there is someone who is around to tell us that this is the right turn we’re ‘supposed to’ make. We want to believe that that life is already pre-destined and promises great things. But there is no ‘supposed to’… it is all your choice, to walk that path or not. And it is all going to be up to you to make something of it; there are no guarantees.

Now if a path truly resonates with you, it is most likely going to be a good thing for you; it’ll help you grow and find peace. But it’s all up to you, and there are no age limits.

Oh I’m so sorry for the difficulties.

I know I snipped out a lot about your mom and your mentor; having powers from your family line that you’re trying to unleash and juggling energy balls are not really up my alley. I believe magic is rooted in nature and psychology; in my experience, anyone has access to it, they just have to learn to use it. It is a literal skill and the effort is what really counts. And I believe it’s more practical in nature, or at least that’s the kind of magic I concern myself with: goal-oriented magic that helps one grow as a person, achieve their goals, and help others. Day to day stuff, that makes life better. Somehow I’m getting that this isn’t what you mean, and you’re looking for something a little more grandiose than I can offer.

I will say it sounds to me like you need to kind of work on your spiritual side first, nurturing it and healing a bit from the traumas. If you don’t have a regular meditation regime, you should definitely get started on one. You might even want to create an altar area/temple where you can go for spiritual healing and nourishment. Cleanse the chakras, strengthen the shields, etc. Rebuild the foundation, basically.

Hope that helps :o)


Hello; personally I believe black and white magic all operate on the same principles. Kind of like if you know how to light a fire to cook your food on a campfire, you also know how to light it for burning someone’s house down. The ability to build a fire isn’t black or white, it’s just a skill. Same like magic– you can use it to help or to harm. It’s not a different type, just a choice on how to use it.

Which is why every Witch or magician of any sort will do best to work on dealing with those kinds of issues that you mentioned.  A lot of would-be Witches want to get straight to the spells, they think the spells will make them powerful and give them what they want; they want to skip over all the intense work on the self, which is what really makes the difference between a true Witch and a dabbler in the Craft.

It’s very wise of you to recognize your destructive impulses are not healthy and that they could, if you’re not careful, end up with you bringing problems on yourself. With such negative emotions having a grip on you, self-transformation is the best thing you can do for yourself.

In my humble opinion, it’s generally a good idea to start with the physical self. Get a check-up for your physical and mental health. There could be a chemical imbalance, a nutrient deficiency or hidden allergy at play here.

For the spiritual efforts, I think it’s a good idea to start with general cleansings and purifications: you might want to do an uncrossing ritual (there may be some negativity clinging to you or entity feeding off you). Make sure your chakras aren’t blocked– clean and align them. Cleanse your space, physically to get rid of any trapped lower entities or unpleasant energies that tend to be attracted to dirt, clutter, disorganization, etc. Then clean it spiritually (salt/water, fuming, blessing oils, etc.) to get rid of those things and purify the space.

Such actions will release the grip of any influential energies/entities that might be contributing to your problem.

Then comes the hard part: reprogramming the subconscious. The best way to accomplish this is with meditations, daily affirmations and pathworking. Pathworking will really help you figure out the ‘source’ of these negative feeling, and if they’re due to subconscious programming, the affirmations will help reprogram it. Trance work will help you meet the ‘guardian at the gate’, so to speak, accept challenges and prove you’re worthy to pass on to the next phase of your journey.

After that, you also might want to work on depolarizing yourself, such as practicing some version of the Middle Pillar ritual to help you find balance and help you get control over those darker impulses, helping you channel that energy toward more productive goals. This energy isn’t in itself bad; it’s more about how you channel it/use it. Finding balance with your energies will help you make better choices about that, and improve your self-control over impulses.

I hope you find some of these suggestions helpful! Best of luck!

Never a bother, that’s what I’m here for :o)

As I’ve said in some of my other mailbag answers, the addiction spell is for a person to  do on themselves. It’s a whole ‘nother ball game when you’re trying to work on another person, and I’m currently trying to work on an article about that. Unfortunately, with a busy life right now, it’s slow-going.

But as to your question about the age of a Witch– there is no special age you have to wait to in order to start learning. Kids who grow up in magical families are trained in some things from the time their babies– but it’s more training to give them the right attitude and the right world view, such as introducing them to nature’s abundant energies, and showing them how they have the ability to manipulate those energies. You try to teach them to think in a way that is conducive to magic– whereas most people coming to the Craft as adults have to undergo a lot of deprogramming, lol, to get rid of the self-imposing limits.

For formal study, it’s usually going to be difficult at a younger age. In some ways magic is very natural, because it’s always in us and around us and we can learn to utilize it intuitively. But learning to be highly adept can be very complex, there is a lot of study and mental discipline involved. A lot of reading of difficult issues. I am a college graduate and there have been some books I had to read 5 times, with a dictionary on hand and copious note-taking and side research just to understand things, and it takes a while to ‘sink in’.

So no, 10 is not too young to start learning Witchcraft; ideally they would have someone in their family able to help them. If not, it is best to remember to go slow, and that you have many years of learning ahead of you. So exercise caution. Your best bet is to work on the internal stuff– meditation, attuning with the natural world, etc. than worrying about spellwork straight away.

And that brings this mailbag to a close!

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