Mailbag: Ask Sage (9)


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Very thoughtful questions! I would say, first off, let’s define Pagan: Paganism is a group of religions and spiritual paths that fall under the same category. And basically, the biggest thing they have in common is that they don’t fall into the category of Abrahamic faiths. There is much diversity in Paganism, and many, many people of different beliefs (including agnostics, atheists, theists of all flavors, reconstructionists, preventionists, tradition-based, solitary, anarchists, hedonists, conservatives, liberals, progressives, fascists, centrists, pacifists, etc., etc., etc.) have identified in the ‘Pagan’ category. So I don’t think identifying as a Pagan is doing anything wrong or disrespectful. There’s no Pagan police or Pagan official entry exam or anything like that. It’s more of a matter of personal identification.

Second, in my personal opinion, the most noble thing a person can do for society first and foremost is to work on himself. It’s like what Ghandi said: be the change you want to see in the world. That starts with being the best version of you that you can be. I don’t see anything wrong there.

And you’re right– it’s not about tricking anything or taking anything undeservedly. It’s about transforming the inner landscape to make external changes. Some people do that with spells, by the way.

And there’s nothing wrong if the power of suggestion helps you do it. Our minds are imperfect; they are prone to suggestion. They are prone to be brainwashed. They are prone to be tricked. Okay fine; so use those weaknesses to your advantage and turn them into your strengths. Brainwash yourself to believe whatever helps you achieve your goals and find harmony in life. Use spells, chants, mantras, rites, rituals, Gods, etc.– anything you want– as a big-ole’ placebo effect. It’s perfectly okay to use these for the symbolic impact they have on the human psychology. Go forth and become a self-fulfilling prophecy!

Best of luck!

Ah, I am actually working on a YouTube video to discuss this… next week’s video will be ‘How do I know if I’m a Witch?’

So I will tell you to simply look out for that, as it will probably answer a lot of questions for you.

But I will add, the right time to start studying/practicing the Craft, is the time you feel you can devote the time to the practice. If you’re ready, jump in!


Hi there; you might actually want to look up some Christian Witches… Witches can be of any (or no) religion. Some are Christian, and they reconcile their faith with both God and the Bible. If you read the Bible carefully, you’ll see that magical practices in general were never prohibited (in fact, priests of God frequently used it, including Moses!).

Back then, people knew, it was a given, that there were all kinds of magic users, both benevolent and malevolent. The word ‘witch’ was almost exclusively reserved for malevolent magic users. What the Bible prohibits is malevolent magic that the enemies of the Jews/early Christians were practicing– ‘evil’ magic. Even Pagans burned witches back then.

The word Witch was redefined in the 19th/20th centuries to mean magic user in general, and it took on a more neutral, and even more positive meaning.

While some Christians still believe all forms of magic and divination are wrong and against the Bible, others beg to differ. You might want to look into that perspective to help you get some perspective on what you really think your  calling is.

Hi there; I am so sorry about your friend. I have actually responded to similar questions a couple of times now (alcoholism, cocaine addiction, etc.) but it’s so important I want to throw this in again.

The spell to which you’re referring (found here) is a good, simple but powerful spell that can help. Uncrossing rituals can also help, as can meditation/mindfulness, cleansing/purification efforts (of the individual and their environment), herbal cleanses (please consult with a qualified, licensed practitioner),  and physical exercise, along with counseling/therapy/support groups/treatment and other methods.

But the real catch is that the addict has to  be on board, or it’s all for naught.  The addictive will is very strong.

First let me say, I’m so sorry to your wife for the inhumane treatment to which she was subjected.

I also want to say that I totally agree with you both– some is from the trauma, but not all. If this guy is trained magically, and if he has that much hatred, anger, and vengeance in him, he’s not worried about using whatever power he can over his victims.

You may want to work your wife through a 7-day or 13-day uncrossing ritual, for  her or perhaps for both of you. That is basically a daily ritual bath & candle magic, usually performed between midnight and dawn for a specific amount of days. It would involve an herbal bath, prayers, lighting candles with specific intent, anointing oneself with uncrossing oils. In the day, you’d spend some time cleansing the home with floor washing (using the uncrossing bath water), fuming with purification incense, etc.

There are so many versions online, I’d urge you to do some research and find a method that works with your personal spiritual beliefs. Also there are versions with simple kitchen herbs and oils, and versions using specially made herbal concoctions and essential oils that you can buy if you have the money for that kind of investment.

An uncrossing ritual on occasion for 1 or 3 days is a good maintenance in general I recommend to people. When people are suffering from negativity or possible magical interference, I recommend 7 day. But you are dealing with someone who is extremely malevolent and skilled, so 7 or 13 day would probably be best for you guys.

You might also want to invoke some magical protection if you feel inclined. I’d bind the sucker, honestly. Was he caught? If not, a spell to bring him to justice might be in order. You also might want to put together a Witch’s jar for magical protection.

For your wife, who must be an amazingly strong woman to endure and survive all of this, I wish her the best on the road to healing. There are so many avenues to take with that: counseling/therapy, medication, healing spells, banishing negative thoughts/feelings/dreams repeatedly, protection spells, etc., not to mention time, love & support. I wish you both well, please let me know if I can help with anything further.


And on that note, I think we will call it quits for today. Till next time!


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Mailbag: Ask Sage (8)

Hello all! A few things have been going on here with me:

  • I attended the Pagan Unity Festival in Tennessee– quite a drive from southern Florida, but worth it! Read my review here!
  • I’m working on finishing up my next book, 8 Suns to Becoming Wiccan
  • I’m STILL sifting through my huge, stuffed inbox
  • I’m working on those YouTube videos — See the Latest: What Your Mind Should Be Doing During a Spell

With that, I’m going to get to a few new questions. If you’re thinking of writing in, I welcome you to do so! Just give me time to get through– I never expected so many people needed help!  I can’t tell you how truly honored I am, I am humbled by the fact that you’re interested in my input.

Also, please check for previous Mailbags to make sure a question similar to yours wasn’t already answered.

Here are the latest crop of questions I’ve gotten through! Thanks for the thoughtful and insightful questions!

Your English is, I’m sure, waaaaay better than my ability to speak your native tongue, lol. So no sweat– actually, your English is very good for a non-native speaker.

Wow, that’s a lot of questions! Good ones, though, so I would like to tackle them one-by-one for you:

Whenever you do something new with your life, you risk change: getting an education, starting a new career, new hobby, moving to a new land, getting married, having kids, etc. It’s all going to change you. Witchcraft is no different in this respect. It’ll change you; I know it’s changed me– I learned a lot from the Craft, and it’s helped me become the person I am today. I’m very happy with that.

It’s also possible to ‘lose yourself’ in any new endeavor if you let yourself get sucked into bad choices and negativity. I can’t promise you it won’t ever happen– I don’t know you, or what you intend to do. But I can say that if you’re aware of the fact that you don’t want it to happen, that’s half the battle.

I’m getting the sense that the bigger issue here is that you’ve been taught the idea that Witchcraft = bad, and you are worried that even if you approach it with innocent intentions, some evil force behind it is going to sort of suck you in and make things go wrong. In my experience, that kind of worry comes from fiction and rumor. I would say that in my religion, Witchcraft is simply a self-help measure and magic is a tool of nature. If you approach it with good, healthy intentions, you have no need to worry.

Some people approach it with darkness– they want power over others, they are petty and want revenge, they are selfish and want to take from others more easily, they don’t care who they hurt. They wallow in negativity… so that’s what they get out of it. If you’re not a dark, negative person, then you don’t have to worry about it.

2. But it will be really you. Just like if you get a new dress or lose weight or fix your hair. Magic simply aids you in achieving your goals.

3. I can’t help you with that; there are a lot of people (particularly in your neck of the woods) who have real fears and prejudices against the Craft. Some people prefer to guard their privacy. Some people stand up to others and don’t care what others think. If you really fear that you’ll be shunned or attacked or your safety will be in danger for your beliefs, you need to consider whether you really want to open that particular can of worms.

4. Then learn how to do spells right, lol.

Seriously, everything in life has consequences. You are at risk when walking across a street, when cutting up veggies with sharp knife, when standing in a slippery, wet tub… life’s a gamble. Magic is like fire; it’s energy, to be used, but with respect. It can heat your home or burn it down. That doesn’t mean it’s bad or good. It’s just a matter of respecting it for what it is and exercising caution.

Witchcraft is no different… if you aren’t careful, there can be consequences. But probably not the kind you are worried about. I’ve cast spells that had unintended results… when my husband once needed a confidence boost for a job interview, I cast a spell on him upon request to motivate him to go after what he wanted. And he got the job… but he was also an argumentative, selfish, annoying bitch for the next couple of months until that boost wore off. I wanted to smack him sometimes, lol.

There are always natural consequences for everything we do, Witchcraft included. But I think your fears are born more out of misconceptions of Witchcraft than of what it actually is.

5. Again, I think you have some misconceptions of what Witchcraft is. Witchcraft is utilizing magic, a natural resource. A neutral resource. It doesn’t just automatically attract ‘evil’ or bad things to you, unless that is what you’re looking to attract, anymore than lighting a fire in your fireplace would automatically attract the devil.

It definitely sounds like she’s been working magic,most likely with the aid or guidance of a spellcaster (a costly one, probably) that convinced her that what she was doing was somehow a good thing. I’ve heard that spiel before about a ‘bonding cord’. Personally, I don’t believe those kinds of love spells are good; being restrained against your will, with real cords or with magical ones, is still bondage and imprisonment no matter how you slice it.

Some things you might have felt if this was a spell:

  • obsessive/compulsive about her
  • overly idealized her, ignored red flags, denied warnings, looked the other way when problems arose
  • resentful of her sometimes, almost as if you were angry that you couldn’t get away even if you wanted to, like a part of you was annoyed that she had this effect on you
  • she would become very frustrated that you weren’t turning out to be what she’d hoped for, that things weren’t going her way
  • very difficult to break up, thoughts of breaking up dragged out, actual attemps were very messy, lots of baggage

If you think you were under a spell, then it is good that she’s unbinding you (something she never had a right to do without your permission). But you should take extra precaution for yourself. I’d do an uncrossing ritual if you know how or are so inclined to such a big ritual if you want to be sure to break any last remnants of magical workings she may have done on you.

If you feel that would be too much for you for now, or if you don’t feel it’s that urgent, I recommend just getting an uncrossing oil from a good, reputable source like Lucky Mojo or The Sacred Grove. An uncrossing bath wouldn’t hurt either.

At the very least, get some salt and do some purifying/cleansing baths and/or showers and do some cleansing meditations. Best of luck!

Wow, see… that’s the tough thing about dreams. It’s so hard to know if it’s a psychic attack, a message/warning from the subconscious, a scary nightmare, etc. This is something you might need to explore– meditate, pray, and visualize white light around you to protect yourself before going to sleep.

Not knowing your sister in law, or what the deal is with her, it would be impossible for me to judge. But you might want to look into sleep paralysis, because it sounds like that was involved.

Let me know if things progress.

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Mailbag: Ask Sage (6) & More

Greetings & Salutations! Hope you’re well! As family matters and work got hectic there, I was forced to take a hiatus, but I’m happy to announce I’m back and getting back in the saddle here.

My mailbag is COMPLETELY FULL, so I thought I might start by catching up on some of the question… for those of you who have been waiting for an answer, thanks for your patience!

Before I get to that, I do have a couple of exciting announcements:


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And now, let’s dig into that mailbag!

Hi there… I’d love to help you out, but unfortunately, Witchcraft just doesn’t work that way. If I could just say the right word, it would have saved me YEARS of meditation and mental discipline!

Think of it this way: let’s say you wanted to learn how to play the piano. Someone can give you all the notes, but that doesn’t mean you can just sit down and play a song. You have to learn how to play the instrument, you have to train your fingers to move properly, you have to practice.

I can give you words; but words aren’t going to do it. A Witch can’t just say words and make things go ‘poof’. Magic only works like that in the movies or on TV.

You have to learn what your mind should be doing, and train your mind to do it. There are just no shortcuts, I’m afraid. If you want to get to the point where a spell works for you, then you’ll have to spend the next few months/years studying Witchcraft, meditating and training your mind in order to make it work.

Hello! I’m so sorry to hear you’ve been unhappy! I realize there can be a lot of complex issues behind that so I just hope that you’re finding your way through that to feel better.

As for my experiences at the beginning of my journey… wow, it’s hard to just put it in a nutshell. I’d been a seeker for a long time before I stumbled upon my path. At first it was exciting– Witchcraft was always something I was drawn to, it always fascinated me. It was a little frightening– I didn’t know what I might be getting into, and all those rumors and horror stories! It was also overwhelming– there just seemed so much to learn.

I was impatient back then. I rushed things. I wanted things to happen, fast. I needed things. I wanted my way. I skimped on preparation.  I made a lot of mistakes and had a lot of things fizzle out, but there were some successes and they were exhilarating. I was lucky to find good teachers who taught me to slow down, shut up and stop being impulsive.

I guess what surprised me most is that it wasn’t as ‘supernatural-ish’ as I had expected. In fact, it seemed things worked out rather naturally… it looks a lot just like coincidence most of the time. But dozens of coincidences begin to stack up and eventually you realize they’re not random; you see that you can make it happen.

The real power seemed to be more in the internal transformation than in anything external I could nudge in my favor… that’s when the real growth comes, when you begin learning that the better you are at mastering yourself, the better you are at mastering magic. Knowing yourself (the good, the bad and the ugly), stripping away the delusions, facing the inner ‘demons’ and the ‘guardian at the gate’, learning to accept yourself– or change yourself if you don’t like something, gaining self-control, increasing self-discipline… it’s when these things get going that the big changes start to come.

I could probably write a book on my years as a Witch. I’m an entirely different person than I used to be. It’s really help me grow and evolve, I could probably go on for hours about this!

Short and to the point… I like it.

That is a really hard question. There are a lot of reasons spells go wrong. Some people think if you just read words, or follow instructions to light a candle or burn an herb, then things will just happen. It doesn’t work that way.

First I would ask you, how much studying have you done? Do you understand what you’re actually doing? Have you done enough study to tell if the spells you’re finding are even good ones?

How much time have you spent meditating, learning to focus, to visualize? When you cast a spell, do you understand why you’re doing what it says to do? Are you keeping the right frame of mind after the spell?

As you can see, there is a lot involved. Since I don’t know anything about your background, what spells you’re specifically casting, or what kind of training you have, I couldn’t begin to guess. But if all or most of your spells are failing, I’d say you should go back to the basics… you are probably missing some vital details.

Hello there. I get a lot of requests from people asking if I can personally mentor them. Unfortunately, there aren’t enough hours in the day for me to do that. I do teach classes and workshops, I have a book out, I’ve written hundreds of articles, plus I just started that YouTube channel, so you can get a lot of what I have to teach from those. Beyond that, I can’t do any one-on-one right now, and I’m not taking on any new year-and-a-day Wicca students right now.

Your best bet would be to find someone local, though. Check out and see if you can find any local classes, shops, events, etc. and do some networking. I wish you much luck! You know what they say– when the student is ready, the teacher will come.

Well, I’m not one to believe in white vs. black Witchcraft. The way I see it, it all works on the same principles.

Put it this way: if you walk into a store to buy a knife, do you ask for a ‘white knife’ to cut your food, but a ‘black knife’ to kill someone? No… a knife is a knife. There’s no special kind of knife to hurt someone. Likewise, there is no different kind of magic to hurt someone.

It all works based on the same principles. It’s up to you to use it responsibly.

If you have a knife and don’t want to stab anyone– don’t stab anyone. Same thing with Witchcraft; if you don’t want to hurt people or use it unethically, then don’t.

As for running a coven; you really have to join a coven and work your way up before you can run one. A coven leader is a spiritual leader; that’s not a job people should take lightly. The best way to learn it is as a student first, then as a teacher.

Best of luck to you!

Whew, I am going to give it a break for now… that was a lot of mail! But I’ll catch up some more next week. In the meantime, many blessings!


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