Mailbag: Ask Sage (12)

Helloooooooo fellow magical folk! It’s a beautiful day in the neighborhood! The sun is shining, and I’m getting all ready for a Summer Solstice celebration at the beach next week.

For those of you new to Wicca, Witchcraft or Paganism in general, you don’t have to be Wiccan to observe this powerful holiday! It makes for a great celebration of nature in all its glory, it’s a time when the veil between our world and the fairy world is think, and it’s one of the most powerful times of year for magic. sHere are some of my Hubpage articles you might find interesting:

Wiccan Holidays: What is the Summer Solstice?

Summer Solstice Correspondences, Associations and Traditions

Celebrating the Summer Solstice: A Fairy Ritual for Midsummer

Magic for Midsummer: Simple Spells, Potions, And Other Magical Inspirations


Having raised three little Witchlings of my own, I would say yes– a step in the right direction is to teach children that their thoughts, words and deeds have a huge impact on  this world, and on what happens to them.

There are some great books, such as  Circle Round: Raising Children in Goddess Traditions, The Pagan Family: Handing the Old Ways Down, and Family Wicca: Practical Paganism for Parents and Children were some of my favorites when raising my kids.

Another resource I love is the website The Pooka Pages. It is designed for Pagan children giving simple stories, explanations, spells, coloring pages, etc. Even though my youngest is 16 now, I still like to browse it and occasionally grab a fun family idea for our Sabbat celebrations, or a coloring page for myself to color and pin up above the family altar.

Blessings to you and your little one!

Hi there! I do have a few favorite books, mostly I tend to post them in the articles I write. If you’re gardening, I highly recommend getting an herb gardening guide for your specific region… for me, gardening in the south, I absolutely adore the book Southern Herb Growing. It’s not a Witchcraft/Pagan book, but such a great guide for the challenges of growing herbs in southern climates.

I’m a fan of Scott Cunningham’s guides, so I recommend:
Cunningham’s Encyclopedia of Magical Herbs (Llewellyn’s Sourcebook Series) (Cunningham’s Encyclopedia Series)
The Complete Book of Incense, Oils and Brews (Llewellyn’s Practical Magick)

I also like:
The Wicca Garden: A Modern Witch’s Book of Magickal and Enchanted Herbs and Plants (Citadel Library of the Mystic Arts Book)
Kid’s Herb Book, A: For Children of All Ages… which I find to be great for kids AND adults.

For crystals I usually intuit or do quick research online, but a good book for reference is:Cunningham’s Encyclopedia of Crystal, Gem & Metal Magic

There may be other great books out there that I haven’t read, but these are among my favorites. Hope that helps!

Heyyyy buddy! Thanks so much!

When it comes to dressing a candle with oils, I just smear some on my hands and get going. A couple of drops maybe? I don’t really measure. Very little– just enough to lightly coat. I start with a couple of drops, and if it’s a big candle and feels like it’s spreading too thin, a couple more.

As for how much herbs/glitter, I usually sprinkle these on a tray and roll the candle in it. So maybe a teaspoon or two, depending on side of the candle? As much as will stick, lol.

Hope that helps!

Hi there; I admire your courage to get away and break toxic relationships. I know a bit about that myself, and it’s a hard thing to do, but sometimes necessary to our well being. Sounds like you made the right choice for yourself, and as hard as it might have been it sure sounds like it as the best thing. I’m sosorry that there have been magical people cheating you! Charlatans piss me off!

The jar spell using urine, nails, pins, etc. aren’t meant to facilitate healing; they’re meant to break spells/negative holds and to protect, so if you still feel threatened, it could be a good idea. You can also do a jar spell for healing, though I wouldn’t recommend using the urine/pins, I’d fill one with olive oil, healing herbs, some of my own blood, etc, and do candle magic over it to facilitate healing. Since turpentine has strong associations to healing for you, you might mix it in with the oil, or replace the oil with turpentine (for me, it just means ‘paint thinner’, lol, so I would probably not use it for any healing spells; perhaps for cleansing/clearing spells).

You can also create some kind of charm (Witch’s ladder, charm bag, etc.) to facilitate healing. I also recommend taking some cleansing baths or perhaps an uncrossing ritual if you feel up to it. Best of luck to you, dear!


Hello there… first off, I wanna thank you for all the kind words you had about my articles (for those wondering, I snipped out that part, lol). But you really made my day.

Now, onto the question at hand… I would first of all say forget titles like “Wiccan” or “Christian”…. you have a strong relationship with a God, and you have figured out what works for you on your spiritual path, and you have learned to listen to your instincts. I’d say stick to that path. It appears to be working for you.

The only question seems to be is… what do you call it? Though you worship the Abrahamic God YHWH, can it honestly be called ‘Christianity’ if you dismiss Jesus as savior (kind of the core theological point in Christianity). Though you believe there is one God, and that he is the Abrahamic God that comes along with very Abrahamic-specific beliefs (demons and angels, for example), can it called ‘Wicca’, a religion that espouses gender duality, and with a world view that contradicts the ‘good vs. evil’ world view?

Only you can really figure that out for yourself… I think of it as kind of a bullseye with concentric circles around it. The more one shares a core belief/value with a religion, the closer one gets to the bullseye; the more one deviates, the further one gets away from the bullseye. One doesn’t have to be ‘dead center’ to be on target, but at some point, one has to consider they’ve  missed the mark; or perhaps strayed off the target and are in entirely new territory.

If you were to ask me, I’d say your beliefs probably don’t fit in either the category of “Christianity” or “Wicca”… even though you are certainly influenced by both, you stray enough from core tenets to really fall in line with either.

That is not a bad thing, however. Your beliefs are no less valid than a Methodist or a Gardnarian’s are. It all just comes down to ‘how do we label it’; it’s about where it would be categorized. I think your path lies outside the box, so to speak. I think both labels would probably mislead people on what your actual beliefs are…. and, as Wicca is a minority religion that many people fail to understand, you telling someone you’re Wiccan is only going to confuse them further.

But what you call it is really up to you, whether I or anyone else thinks it’s an accurate label or not. To me it sounds more in line with how I understand New Age or Christo-Paganism, or Abrahamic (perhaps Gnostic?) Paganism, and you draw in many elements that are compatible with Wicca. But only you can do an honest examination of your beliefs and determine the best thing to call it.

Either way, whatever you call it, it sounds like you’ve done something many people struggle with for years, or a lifetime: you’ve found your true path. It doesn’t really matter what anyone calls it, including you, lol. Just keep on that spiritual journey.


And with that, my friends, I am out. Have a great week!


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