Mailbag: Ask Sage (15)

Happy Weekend Everyone– I am happy to say that, I am totally getting there! By the end of next week I’ll have completely caught up with all the questions I can answer in my mailbag…. if you did not see yours, it means one of the following things:

  1. I didn’t get it
  2. I lost it in the shuffle
  3. I answered a question that was very similar/it was a repeat question
  4. It is far out of my realm of knowledge, and I don’t know where to point you (though usually I’ll have responded to you telling you that).

In the meantime, let’s get to it.

I understand your concern. I grew up in a Christian family, and very much feared Witchcraft for a long time. I believed what I was told: that it was from Satan, etc.

Then I started learning more about other religions. Like I learned that in Judaism, Satan wasn’t a fallen angel at all; he still works for God. I learned in other religions, they don’t believe in Satan.

Eventually, I stopped believing in Satan. I started practicing the Craft in time, and was still a bit nervous– what if I was wrong? But, I must admit, in more than 25 years, I’ve never had any encounter or experience with any form of devil. It’s just never happened.

In my beliefs, and from my experience, magic is part of nature. It’s woven into the fabric of the universe. It’s a natural resource, like fire– you learn to harness it. It can be dangerous, but it doesn’t have a mind, it’s not out to get you. You learn to respect it and use it safely, you don’t have a problem.

Yes, I believe there are some malevolent entities out there… of course there are. But I don’t believe they hold much power over us. You don’t need to bother with them, and you can certainly protect yourself from them or get rid of them if need be. But nothing like the Christian Satan concept.

There are people who believe Satan is a true God, they have a totally different concept of him (he is the one who attempted to bring man knowledge and self-empowerment, but was slandered by a rival God, Yahweh, in their beliefs); if that’s the case, they could probably bring Satan into their magic the same way a Pagan might bring in Thor or Aphrodite, or the way a Christian or Jew might bring in YHWH. But that would be a deliberate act.

None of the horror story-esque type rumors Christians told me about Witchcraft ever turned out to be true. Seriously. So I honestly don’t even worry about or think about that stuff anymore. There are Christian Witches; if you’re a Christian, or raised Christian, which I suppose you might be if you’re worried about an entity known as ‘the devil’,  and you believe in the Christian world view of God/devil, you should probably talk to some Christian Witches to get their perspective.

Here’s the problem with that: generational curses are pretty rare. First off, because they aren’t easy to pull off, and secondly, because even for the best Witches, they wear off.

Most of the time when people believe their family has been cursed, it hasn’t. It’s usually just dysfunctional family dynamics… parents passing down poor interpersonal skills, poor disciplinary philosophies and poor habits and attitudes to the next generation for ages.

No offense– I come from a dysfunctional family.  It’s like a curse, but not a magic one that needs to be broken. A magical curse is almost preferable– spells can be broken, dysfunctional families are not so easily fixed.

Often what makes it 10 times worse is that the family does believe in a generational curse; if that’s so, even if the were cursed, the curse is not the problem; the energy they feed into the curse by believing it and fearing it is what the problem is. More often, someone (some con artist pseudo-psychic) told people their family is cursed because they wanted to bleed the family dry.

So I would really recommend getting a good psychic or spiritualist and having a reading done by someone objective (and, naturally, reputable– beware of scammers).

Now if it comes down to it that you think a curse was actually cast, there are different ways to go about breaking it. At this point, you (or a Witch, or your spiritualist, etc.) would have to assess the nature of the problems and who is involved. It’s not something I can really help with from just one email myself, so I’m hesitant to get into too much detail, but some things you can do that wouldn’t hurt either way is to cleanse the home and the family members– cleansing and purification baths, smudging, anointing oils, floor washes, etc., to get rid of pockets of negativity.

Another REALLY important thing is for the family to renounce any power that a curse might have over them. Many people overlook this simple step, but by underestimating their own power that they have over their lives they are essentially rolling over and allowing any curse (real or imagined) to continue. Affirmations can help with that.

I also would urge you to consider if your family’s problems might be perfectly natural. Here’s an interesting read:

I wish you the best of luck.

Hi there; there are definitely people who are more sensitive to spirits, and of course, this usually results in drawing more spirit activity to us. Protection is important, so good for you!

There are essentially a few ways you can go about ensuring protection:

  1. learn to put up your ‘shields’ (the more you practice visualizing this, the better you’ll get at it; but unfortunately it only works when you’re deliberately keeping the shields going– but when being attacked, or when you feel a threat, it’s good to do)
  2. casting a spell of protection (durations vary– but good if you need some heavy-duty shielding for a while, 24/7)
  3. creating a protective charm, amulet or talisman (this is great to keep yourself protected even when you’re not thinking about it; you just have to keep it around you).

Also remember that part of protection is ‘maintenance’– cleansing away negativity, purification baths occasionally, etc.– both on your person and in your environment– so that you don’t put yourself in a vulnerable position. Think of it as the same as why you keep your house clean and your food sanitary to prevent illnesses.

Blessings upon your path!

First of all, did you see the film? It was awesome! I have been a Wonder Woman fan since I was a little girl; loved her comic books, watching her show, dressing up like her for Halloween or play-acting. I was also lucky enough that I was the only girl among my cousins on one side of the family, so when we all were outside playing ‘Super Heroes’, I always got to be Wonder Woman by default!

Anyway– here’s what I believe. I believe the Gods and Goddesses are REAL spiritual beings that are beyond our comprehension. ALL of the images we give them, ALL of the myths/stories we tell about them, are just human creations. It’s how we relate to something that is so beyond our mortal comprehension. And THEY know it. So they relate to us in ways that we understand. And frankly, I wouldn’t rule out a Higher Power relating to you through a form that you respect and relate to, like Zeus, Yahweh, Bast, or… Wonder Woman.

Some people believe Gods are tulpas– beings we create ourselves using thought forms. In this case, it’s humans who created Gods, not the other way around. That doesn’t mean they’re not real; we gave them their energy, we gave them a life of their own.

Along the same lines, some don’t believe in Gods literally but that they are archetypes, and by giving them a ‘form’ we are better able to relate to those parts of the human brain from which they come.

Interesting article:

You might like this video.

As for prayers, invocations, gifts– I would meditate on her, meet her in creative visualization trances. Ask her what offerings she appreciates; either the being embodying Wonder Woman (or, if you lean more atheistic, your subconscious mind) will supply the answer intuitively. Certainly any warrior Goddess prayer or invocation could probably be adapted.

Hello… depends really. Do you fear these exes will use that power he’s given to them? Do they know how? If not, I wouldn’t be too worried.

If he wishes to nullify his bonds, yes there are ways to do that. This is actually something I have all my students work on when I train people or teach Wiccan Way Grove classes.

One way to ‘freeze’ such connections right away and get some relief from them is have him write each one down on a different piece of paper: the name, and whatever bond he feels he made with them (actions or words) in whatever way he wishes to phrase it.. Fold it up and throw them into a tupperware, fill it with salt water and put it in the freezer– as he does this, it should be with the intent of putting a temporary hold on those bonds. Suspending them, basically. That is the thought-energy he wants to put into them.

If he DID have any bonds that were still working on him or being used, ‘freezing’ them would immediately give him relief. He’d feel a difference.

Have him do chakra meditations/creative visualizations, one at a time. Go through each chakra (there are millions of websites describing them, so if you’re not familiar with chakras it might take a bit of research) and have him visualize it, and explore whether there are any chains/ropes/ties/etc… these would be how his mind symbolizes such connections he might have made. Then have him visualize severing those ties/binds.

You can also use candle magic… use a candle to represent him (male-shape, specific color, or white, which is the yang/male energy). Use a candle to represent his former girlfriend (female-shape, specific color she’s associated with, or black, which is the yin/female energy). Scratch their names in the candles, birth dates, and if desired, put their pictures under the candles (a pic of him alone to represent him, and a pic of his ex if he has one).

Get a ribbon in the color that represents the bond (red for blood bonds is good) and tie one end to the ‘male’ candle and one to the ‘female’ candle. Stand them on opposite sides of the altar/table (or, you know, away from each other, to represent distance). Light each candle, stating who they represent (names), visualize the energy connecting them running along the ribbon, then announce you’re ‘severing’ it and cut the ribbon ordering that it break all ties between them..

Some kind of cleansing/purification incense, like a sage stick, is a good idea. Wave it around the area, between the two figures, to ‘clear the air’. Let the candles each burn out.

Take his wax lump and ribbon remnants and bury it on/around your property…. take her wax lump & ribbon remnants and go throw it in some running water away from your home.

You can also have him do purification baths for 11 days with salt and hyssop, pouring it over his head announcing that he frees himself of all bonds that no longer serve him. You could also do this after the chakra meditations or candle magic.

Once he’s performed the meditation or candle spell and/or bath, it’s safe to unfreeze the papers. Toss them in running water away from your home as well (stream, river, ocean, etc.).

Again, these are precautions in case he feels those bonds are doing something to him that he wants stopped. It is possible they could have naturally disintegrated over time, so it might not be an issue anymore. Best of luck!

Hi there; I’m not sure what you’re looking for protection from, so it’s hard to say. But I will add that you can write it into the spell where you want the money to come from (job opportunities or gambling winnings, a generous donor, for example, as opposed to someone dying and leaving you an inheritance).

But if you feel you want a little extra protection, give your family members something to protect them ahead of time (charms/amulets, for example, to be placed in the home or kept on their person). If they’re non-magical and wouldn’t understand, you don’t have to say it was enchanted, just tell them it was a gift. Or stick a tiny amulet in their  wallet, purse, or in a crease in their shoes where it won’t bother them, or hide it in their house (toss it behind the bed, lol, or tuck it between carpet & wall. You could use a tiny pebble-size crystal (obsidian or amethyst are good), or anoint a small cloth/cotton ball with a protection oil or even a small bit of herb (lavender or sage oil/herb are good) and use that.

Hope that helps!

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