Mailbag: Ask Sage (3)

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I’m so sorry to hear that; I was a Christian into my 20’s and have teens your age, so even though I don’t agree with your parents on their position, I can understand where they’re coming from. I’m sure your parents don’t really think you’re a bad person; they’re probably just very worried about the kind of person you might become if you stray from the path they see as the ‘one right way’. Their religion teaches them that people who practice other religions have sinister intentions and are looking to entrap you in something, and you’ll be in  over your head; right or wrong, they’re just worried about you and want what’s best for you– if they didn’t care, they wouldn’t be worried.

This is a tricky situation. You’re getting old enough to want to explore your spirituality, and in an ideal world nothing would stop you from that or try to make you feel bad about it. What you believe is a personal expression, and no one, not even parents, can really change what goes on inside of our heads, or hearts, or our relationship with our Gods.

On the other hand, your parents deserve respect. They are legally and morally obligated to do their best in raising you and protecting you (again, even if I don’t agree with you needing protection from Pagan religions, they think you do, so they’re acting on that). I know it can be very hard, but you might want to put any formal study or practice on hold for right now, and give your parents the respect they deserve… believe it or not, a couple of years isn’t a very long wait, and you’ll have the rest of your life to do what you want.

No matter what religion you choose in the long run, in time you will be glad that you didn’t let religion cause any rifts in your family.

Until thenyou might want to check out this article: Teen Wiccans: What to Do When Your Parents Won’t Let You Be Wiccan. It will give you some ideas for things you can do to explore alternate spiritualities (Wicca, or generally any Pagan religion) without defying your parents.

Just hang in there! In time, your path will be your own to freely explore.


It’s good to put some thought into it before jumping into any major undertakings! Good for you for having the patience to make a sound decision for yourself.

Now, is it okay to practice Witchcraft as a Christian– a lot of Christian Witches would say ‘yes.’ Other Christians would say ‘no’. I recommend you read both sides of the argument, pray for guidance, and follow what you truly believe your God wants of you.

Keep in mind– Wicca and Witchcraft are not the same thing. Witchcraft is a spiritual art that can be combined with any (or no) religion. Wicca, on the other hand, is a religion in itself that embraces Witchcraft as a perfectly acceptable spiritual art. Wicca is a Pagan religion, not a Christian religion. Wiccans have an entirely different world view (no saviors, nothing to be saved from, multiple Gods we can freely worship, etc).

So as I am Wiccan (a Pagan Witch), you might want to find a Christian Witch to help you out. A Christian Witch would be better able to give answers applicable to your own faith.


Hi! I see from your email heading, you contacted me through my Hubpages. If so, then you’ve found quite a lot of info that I have shared– over 200 articles worth (and growing)!

If you’re a little overwhelmed and don’t know where to begin, I would suggest: Wicca for Beginners: Free Online Wicca Lessons. Just start at the top, and work your way down!

If  you check the bar up near the top of this page, click the ‘Sage Recommends’ link and you’ll find a list of books, websites, shops, etc.

Hope that helps! I’m closing up the ol’ mailbag for this month– but PLEASE KEEP THE EMAILS COMING! Your question might make it into next month’s batch, or I might respond to you personally.

Until next week– bright blessings!


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